Ep. 028 with Delilah Welch

Finding Peace in Grief: A Journey of Love and Resilience

 In the wake of sorrow, I’ve discovered the undeniable strength that comes from love and community. My journey through grief, particularly after the loss of my husband, has not only transformed me but has also deepened my faith. It’s a journey I’m learning to embrace.

 A Community of Compassion

 When I began my Master of Arts program in theology and leadership at Gonzaga University, I was unaware of how pivotal this experience would become in my life. It was 2020, right as the world was entering lockdown due to COVID-19. Amidst the uncertainty, I found not just classmates but a community willing to support each other through our individual challenges. This safe haven became essential for me, especially when my husband passed away.

 Throughout those trying times, I leaned heavily on my friends and classmates, including my dear friend, Delilah Welch. We shared stories, grief, and the wisdom we gained from our studies. This fellowship allowed me to see that while our journeys were unique, our pains were commonly felt. We were navigating this heavy world together.

 Celebrating Achievements with Gratitude

 Delilah is a shining example of resilience. Recently, she secured first place in a national essay competition for military schools, an achievement showcasing her dedication and hard work as a teacher at the Marine Military Academy in Texas. As her friend, I take inspiration from her accomplishments, reminding me that joy can still surface amid sorrow. Celebrating the little victories, like witnessing Delilah thrive and succeed, reinforces my belief in the importance of community support.

 The Beautiful Love Delilah Shared with Mike

As we reminisced about our mutual journeys, Delilah spoke about her relationship with Mike, a fellow teacher. Their story began with playful knocks on the wall they shared at school and blossomed into a beautiful love. Delilah painted a vivid picture of Mike, capturing his humor and kindness that brought light to her life.

Mike wasn’t just Delilah’s partner; he became her confidant, supporter, and joy. Their dynamic as educators turned into a fun and affectionate partnership that was celebrated by their students. He was known for his teasing and lighthearted spirit, making even the mundane days feel special.

Navigating Grief and Finding Strength

However, life took a tragic turn when Mike passed away. This loss shook Delilah to her core, but she knew she had to find a way to cope. Embracing her grief became essential. She realized it was okay to feel the weight of sorrow while also cherishing the beautiful memories they created together. Delilah learned that finding peace in grief is a process requiring patience and self-compassion.

As a single mother, she faced new challenges while trying to guide her son, now a college student in Michigan. This new role prompted Delilah to reflect on both her pain and the love she still has for Mike. Her faith became her anchor, reminding her that, though he is no longer with her, his spirit continues to surround her.

A Journey Beyond Loss

Delilah’s faith journey has also included navigating her past, particularly her previous marriage. The complexity of seeking an annulment in the Catholic Church has posed challenges, but it has allowed her to explore her life’s many layers. Understanding the difference between civil divorce and the annulment process has been eye-opening, emphasizing the Church's commitment to the sanctity of marriage while offering her a chance to reconcile her past with her faith.

This journey of disconnecting from her former marriage while growing closer to her spirituality has given Delilah clarity and peace. It has taught her the importance of living authentically and embracing the paths we carve for ourselves, even when they twist unexpectedly.

Embracing New Beginnings

Through her healing process, Delilah has realized how vital it is to embrace change. This transition from living with her mother to building a life with Mike taught her significant life lessons about independence and identity. She now seeks to redefine herself after such profound loss.

In her journey, Delilah has learned to appreciate the little things and find joy in everyday moments, whether it’s a warm cup of coffee or the laughter of her son. Memories with Mike remain vivid and alive in her heart, guiding her as she navigates the future without him.

The Enduring Legacy of Love

Reflecting on her time with Mike, Delilah feels a deep sense of gratitude. His kindness, humor, and generosity have left an indelible mark on her life. During his wake, she shared stories that revealed his compassionate side—how he bought textbooks for students in need and how he valued education above all else. These acts of selflessness not only warmed her heart but also reminded those around them of the depth of his love for others.

Living in the light of his memory has helped Delilah understand that love doesn’t vanish. Instead, it transforms into something profound, guiding us in our darkest hours. She strives to honor Mike’s legacy by embodying the same compassion and love he exhibited.

Conclusion: Moving Forward in Faith and Love

As I continue on my own journey of grief, I hope to inspire others to embrace their struggles while holding onto the love that once filled their lives. Each step I take is a reminder of the beauty love brings—even in its absence. I am learning to create space for sorrow, joy, and everything in between. The blend of these experiences shapes who I am and who I aspire to be.

My faith, my family, and the support from my community remind me that I am not alone. Together, we can navigate the mountains and valleys of life, finding strength through our connections and shared experiences. From grief comes resilience, and from love comes healing—a profound lesson I cherish deeply.

Through sharing this narrative, I hope to reach those who are also walking their paths of sorrow. You are not alone; together, we can find peace in the midst of our grief, celebrating the loving memories that guide us forward.